Comments on: What must you think of my parents? http://qweirdutah.wordpress.com/2008/06/13/what-must-you-think-of-my-parents/ All things queer and weird and Utah Thu, 12 Nov 2009 22:18:38 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Eric http://qweirdutah.wordpress.com/2008/06/13/what-must-you-think-of-my-parents/#comment-290 Eric Tue, 17 Jun 2008 20:42:53 +0000 http://qweirdutah.wordpress.com/?p=93#comment-290 I'm a bit late to this conversation; I figured out that Doug was your uncle, and I figured that you invited him to read and comment on your blog, so I actually didn't find what he said offensive. But then again, I just got accused, by an ex employee (a lesbian) of being biased against "femmy" males. She said that to my supervisor during her exit interview, which means that I'm officially being "investigated". It came as a bit of a surprise to some of my self-identified "flamer" student employees, of course. I've never told any of them that they shouldn't wear nail polish - just that they should wear a color that goes better with their skin tone.... ;-) I’m a bit late to this conversation; I figured out that Doug was your uncle, and I figured that you invited him to read and comment on your blog, so I actually didn’t find what he said offensive.

But then again, I just got accused, by an ex employee (a lesbian) of being biased against “femmy” males. She said that to my supervisor during her exit interview, which means that I’m officially being “investigated”. It came as a bit of a surprise to some of my self-identified “flamer” student employees, of course. I’ve never told any of them that they shouldn’t wear nail polish – just that they should wear a color that goes better with their skin tone…. ;-)

]]> By: SimpleExistence http://qweirdutah.wordpress.com/2008/06/13/what-must-you-think-of-my-parents/#comment-287 SimpleExistence Fri, 13 Jun 2008 22:33:55 +0000 http://qweirdutah.wordpress.com/?p=93#comment-287 This is why my family isn't privy to my blog. :-) This is why my family isn’t privy to my blog. :-)

]]> By: Chicory http://qweirdutah.wordpress.com/2008/06/13/what-must-you-think-of-my-parents/#comment-286 Chicory Fri, 13 Jun 2008 14:49:12 +0000 http://qweirdutah.wordpress.com/?p=93#comment-286 I'm very sorry if I inflamed or offended anyone, including your uncle Doug. I love you and your family, and particularly your son and all his quirks, and I don't want to sit and let people insult you in my hearing. But I should know that family is tricky and not do things to make it harder. I’m very sorry if I inflamed or offended anyone, including your uncle Doug. I love you and your family, and particularly your son and all his quirks, and I don’t want to sit and let people insult you in my hearing. But I should know that family is tricky and not do things to make it harder.

]]> By: danielle http://qweirdutah.wordpress.com/2008/06/13/what-must-you-think-of-my-parents/#comment-285 danielle Fri, 13 Jun 2008 14:20:47 +0000 http://qweirdutah.wordpress.com/?p=93#comment-285 My 7yo has gone through spells where he's deeply saddened that he doesn't have a uterus (he was expecting to be able to grow and nurse a baby), he consistently adores the color pink and is currently growing his hair out so he can have ponytails like his sister. I don't want him to struggle in society, but I don't want him to be ashamed of who he is. Yes, he has two mothers and few male role models, but he's taught me that his feelings about his body and his preferences are purely, deeply intrinsic - we have not pushed him towards gender bending, in fact I've probably pushed a bit against his wave. I like to think regardless of his ultimate sexuality/gender identity (which can be fluid anyway) he will be well balanced. I think about gay bashing and think about those folks spewing hate - how unbalanced must their own sexuality be to feel so threatened that they would lash out in violence against someone based on their sexuality (or perceived sexuality - I know someone who was assaulted because he was thought to be gay, he is not). The clothes don't make the man, so to speak, and I love what you say about how it's permissive in our culture to try to 'make' people straight, but to try to 'make' a child gay is perceived as ridiculous, or better yet horrifying. Thanks for your post. My 7yo has gone through spells where he’s deeply saddened that he doesn’t have a uterus (he was expecting to be able to grow and nurse a baby), he consistently adores the color pink and is currently growing his hair out so he can have ponytails like his sister. I don’t want him to struggle in society, but I don’t want him to be ashamed of who he is. Yes, he has two mothers and few male role models, but he’s taught me that his feelings about his body and his preferences are purely, deeply intrinsic – we have not pushed him towards gender bending, in fact I’ve probably pushed a bit against his wave. I like to think regardless of his ultimate sexuality/gender identity (which can be fluid anyway) he will be well balanced. I think about gay bashing and think about those folks spewing hate – how unbalanced must their own sexuality be to feel so threatened that they would lash out in violence against someone based on their sexuality (or perceived sexuality – I know someone who was assaulted because he was thought to be gay, he is not). The clothes don’t make the man, so to speak, and I love what you say about how it’s permissive in our culture to try to ‘make’ people straight, but to try to ‘make’ a child gay is perceived as ridiculous, or better yet horrifying. Thanks for your post.

]]> By: DOUG http://qweirdutah.wordpress.com/2008/06/13/what-must-you-think-of-my-parents/#comment-284 DOUG Fri, 13 Jun 2008 12:18:45 +0000 http://qweirdutah.wordpress.com/?p=93#comment-284 you did see it was the nail polish not the spanish i could not get past. you told me years a go about the cap lock win i was first learning to e-mail from now on if i got some thing LOUD to say i will call and keep your friends out of it amor Doug you did see it was the nail polish not the spanish i could not get past. you told me years a go about the cap lock win i was first learning to e-mail from now on if i got some thing LOUD to say i will call and keep your friends out of it

amor Doug

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